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Public Proposals: Romantic Gesture...or Sexist Act?

Popping the question gets political.

Slate has been doing a great wedding series recently, and not gonna lie, it's pretty amazing. In particular, though, this article about public proposals caught my eye. Sometimes, I'm just a sucker for a good old sap-tastic engagement story. But this is not one of those moments. In this article, the author talks about the idea that public proposals are -- get this -- sexist, or a way for men to "exert dominance over the marriage process."

I guess I can see where it's coming from. I mean any jackarse who's popping the question on a JumboTron (I know -- I'm cringing as I write this) or via Twitter or a Groupon deal (I kid you not -- this really happened...more than once) isn't doing it for his lady. The article quotes wedding etiquette expert Anna Post (great-great-granddaughter of, yes, Emily Post) as saying: "It's a confident thing to do, a big megaphone statement to the world. I think there's some real appeal to men in that." That, or the dude is just really clueless. But I don't think that men who propose in public are sexist pigs, or any worse than women who give not-so-subtle hints about what kind of ring they want. I do think that there's a lot of pressure to propose in a really original way -- especially with crazy proposals being posted online before the person even has a chance to say "yes" (or "no"). But sometimes, I hear about a public proposal that totally turns me into a weepy mess. Jack took his sweet time popping the Q, but when he did, I think I would've thought it was romantic no matter how he did it (well, except if it had involved a JumboTron...or Facebook...or Twitter -- for the record, it involved none of those), because I was just so happy. How about you guys? What's your take on public proposals?

-- Holly

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