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Has Technology Taken Over Quality Time With Your Spouse?

Believe it or not, I think I'm seeing the silver lining.

The New York Times has an interesting article up right now called, "Quality Time, Redefined." As you may remember, Holly often (jokingly) calls me the Unabomber because I'm not exactly known for being a tech lover. I mean, it's not like I'm writing manifestos or judging people who BlackBerry their way through dinner.* It's just that personally, I want less of it in my life. If anything, I'm looking for ways to minimize my own screen time. But this article made me rethink the whole technology-relationship thing by touching on something that I completely agree with -- figuring out how to be "alone, together" is a big piece of the happy-marriage puzzle. So if Holly and I sit together on the couch, and I play sudoku on my laptop while she browses eBay on hers, we could be building a stronger union. Yeah. I'm willing to buy that.

From the story: "'Rather than a sign of a dysfunctional relationship, such behavior can actually be interpreted as the sign of health,' said Ronald Levant, a professor of psychology at the University of Akron. 'People who think every minute we're together we have to connect are going to drive each other crazy, because we all need some alone time, no matter how compatible a couple might be,' Dr. Levant said. 'At a certain point in your relationship,' he added, 'your task to keeping the relationship vital and refreshed is managed togetherness and separateness. Technology could be used as a tool to assist that.'"

What do you guys think about this?

*I lied. If you BlackBerry through dinner, I'm definitely judging you.

-- Jack

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