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Avoid Thank-You Note Hell

Step 1: Grab your address list
Remember when you (or a family member) gathered your guests’ names and addresses when you sent off those wedding invites? Grab that list so you don’t have to backtrack. If you can print them off your computer with a label-making program, half of your work is done already! By the way, if you used the Guest List Manager on The Knot, log into your address book on The Nest. All of your contacts will be there; it’ll keep track of the gifts and addresses for you!

Step 2: Get your gift-givers straight
Most gift registries keep a master list of who gave you what, so print out a copy. For all the people who went off your registry, the sooner you jot down what they gave you, the better (before postwedding brain freeze sets in).

Step 3: Divide and conquer
Split up the task with your spouse during commercial breaks (have him do his friends and family, and you do yours). Try for 10 wedding thank you notes a night. Is one of you on a writer’s strike? At least agree to sign the card so both of your names are there. Hint: The person who doesn’t write the cards becomes the envelope-licker and stamp-sticker.

Step 4: Start writing
Just like you don't want to open a boring gift, no one wants to read boring wedding thank you notes. Say why you love the item, thank them for their support, or mention something funny, like how they were a dance machine at your reception. If the gift was money, mention how you plan to use it (house down payment, amazing honeymoon). Once it’s signed and sealed, put a fat checkmark next to the guest's name and beg your new spouse for a quickie hand-massage. Phew, just a few more to go!

Check out our Newlywed To-Do List for tips on getting those post-wedding chores done

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-- Riann Smith

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