| Okay, so you're searching for that "spark." Fair enough. But the truth is, sitting around talking about how you wish the sex was hotter or how it just doesn't feel as exciting as it used to isn't going to get you anywhere. So here's a tip: Do something about it (and by "do" I mean "do it"). If you're only humping on hump day, up the sex to at least two, even three times a week. Also, hit the gym. Exercising regularly is a great way to increase libido, and breaking a sweat together might just turn you both on. Also, email each other sexy messages during the day. Just, you know, not to your work accounts. | If you want to recapture that initial excitment, why not go right back to the beginning? Pick a location -- a bar, or maybe the place you first met -- and pretend to be strangers. Exchange glances. Flirt. Let him buy you a drink (or you send one his way!). And don't leave the role-playing there. When you get home, instead of just ripping off each other's clothes, go at it slowly -- like you're not sure how far it will go. Also throw in some sexy lingerie your spouse has never seen as well, to up to wow factor even more! |
So now it's your turn: How do you and your spouse keep things hot in the bedroom? Have you found yourselves in a sex rut? How did you get out of it?
-- The Nest Editors
Jan 22, 2010
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