| Worst case scenario: He's totally freaked out about marriage (hey, you did have more sex when you were dating) and is pulling away physically because he's having trouble handling it like a man emotionally. If you think this is the case, talk to him about it. Walking around your house all quiet and not touching each other is only going to build more tension, and all he might really need is a couple laps in the therapy pool. That being said, it's way more likely that his lack of affection is due to some other change in his life. Maybe he's feeling down in the dumps about work, or perhaps he's put on a few pounds and thinks you're not attracted to him. Do yourself a favor: Put on some lingerie, tell him he's the sexiest man alive, and see what happens. I bet you'll change your mind. | You're probably not sitting on a sandy beach, daiquiri in hand, as you read this, so yes -- the honeymoon is over. The good news: That doesn't mean you have to stop showing affection for your partner (or accepting less from him). He might not be as cuddly as he was once upon a time, but what about you? For fear of sounding like a 1950s housewife manual, are you pulling your weight in the Private Displays of Affection department? If you set the tone, he'll probably follow. So send him flirty texts during the day. Turn that peck on the cheek into an intro for full-on foreplay (or more). Whisper in his ear how sexy he looks as he heads out the door. Chances are, you guys are just going through somewhat of a transition period and need to find where you fit in on the affection spectrum.
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What about you? Have you ever had to pull your significant other out of a rut?
How did you get the spark back? -- The Nest Editors
Nov 06, 2009
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