| Here's the thing: Your guy already won the prize (you) when you walked down that aisle and said, "I do." So it's possible -- although slightly depressing -- that he might not feel like he has to work that hard now. If you think he's lost his mojo, take him to some of the spots you used to hang out at when you were dating -- bars, coffee houses, parks, restaurants, whatever. Being in familiar environments might spark something in him. Another possibility: The guy might just be stressed out! If that's the case, start planning a vacation together, whether it's a short drive to a B&B for a weekend or a five-day beach getaway. | Don't expect your guy to just watch a couple of Hugh Grant movies and suddently fulfull your every romantic desire (as if he'd watch Notting Hill anyway). I say, be direct. Make a list of 10 romantic things you're just dying to have in your life again -- flowers, spontaneous sex, a night out on the town -- and give them to him. He might just need some ideas! Also take a look at how you're acting in the relationship. Are you making him feel sexy? Have you been picking up his favorite snack when you go to the store or slipped on a hot nightgown "just because"? Remember, romance is a two-way street. |
Okay, so now it's your turn. What do you do to keep the romance alive in your relationship? Are things as hot as before you got married? We want to know! -- The Nest Editors
Feb 05, 2010
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