| "Oh, the honeymoon phase -- when it fades, it fades. It looks like you are getting your first dose of what "for better or for worse" really means. But here's something to think about: If your biggest bickering matches are over whether to delete last week's Grey's or the other night's Blue Collar Comedy Tour from your TiVo, I'd say you're in okay shape. I mean, come on, it's normal for every couple to get on each other's nerves from time to time, and you two are in an adjustment phase right now. Do yourselves a favor and set a night each week to go out and switch things up. Try a new restaurant. Grab drinks at a nearby bar. Hit up a movie. The only ambience of your relationship doesn't have to be a recliner, love seat and that lamp you bought at Pier 1." | "It's not easy sharing your personal space, especially with someone who has the legal right to always be in your face about everything. As frustrated as the two of you may get when you're after him to do the dishes and he's criticizing your spending habits, you'll have to stop and remember all of the wonderful reasons you married each other in the first place. Besides, just because you took a vow to be with him forever doesn't mean you have to physically be with him every second of the day. Sounds like what you two need is some good old-fashioned alone time. Make plans to go out with your friends once in a while, and encourage him to do the same." |
You heard what they had to say, now tell us what you think: Do you agree that it's normal to argue and get on each other's nerves after moving in? Do you think living together before marriage is a smart idea? What boundaries (if any) do you and your spouse set so that there's together time and alone time? Comment below or head to the boards to have your say.
-- The Nest Editors
Oct 02, 2009
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