According to the General Social Survey
, which includes data on the opinions of US citizens and dates back to 1972, married Americans are having sex about 58 times a year -- barely more than once a week. And The Kinsey Institute
, basically the epicenter of sex research, found that the "one or twice a week" average hasn't changed since they started collecting info in the 1940s and '50s. The good news is that couples under 30 are doing it 111 times a year, on average. So why the big discrepancy? The growing number of sexless marriages (read: couples who have sex 10 times a year or less) is messing with the average. And those marriages, studies have shown, are more likely to be unhappy and potentially end in divorce.
So why do couples start having less sex or stop having sex at all? Bob Berkowitz and his wife, Susan Yaeger-Berkowitz, surveyed more than 4,000 men and women to find out for their book, He's Just Not up for It Anymore
. Their findings: The top two reasons men stop having sex with their wives are that she isn't adventurous enough and/or doesn't seem to really enjoy it. We did our own "study" to find out whether having more sex makes a difference in relationships. Check it out
, and comment below on what you do to get out of a sex rut (or avoid one altogether!).
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