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My birth control is killing my sex drive. What should I do?

Though many women don’t experience birth control dampening their libido, some women do.

  • Hormonal birth control (such as The Pill, Patch, Shot, or Ring) all have the potential to dampen a woman’s sex drive. Fortunately, there are other options out there!
  • Condoms are an excellent form of birth control and some couples continue to use them for years. Trojan Ecstasy and Inspiral are two newer condom types that may not have been around when you used to use condoms back in the day. These types of condoms can provide greater sensation for men during sex. Add a lubricant (like Good Clean Love) and you’re all set for more comfortable, pleasurable sex.
  • The cervical cap and diaphragm are also possibilities. They are inserted into your vagina, don’t involve hormones, and can help to greatly reduce your risk of pregnancy.

Choosing a birth control method depends on many factors, including how much of a pregnancy risk you’re willing to take and what your preferred balance of prevention and pleasure may be. Learn more about birth control options from your health-care provider and by checking out

Debby Herbenick, PhD, is a research scientist at Indiana University, a sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute, and author of Because It Feels Good: A Woman's Guide to Sexual Pleasure & Satisfaction. She blogs at

-- Debby Herbenick

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