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Sex Q&A: Allergic to Sperm?

Q.

The Nest Q&AWhenever I give my husband oral sex and there is semen on his penis, the back of my mouth feels like it is going numb and my throat feels like it is closing up on me. Could I possibly be allergic to him?

A.

Do you use any lubricants that might get on his penis, perhaps during foreplay? That could be the cause of an allergic reaction. Or it could be something as simple as performance anxiety: We can get panic-type symptoms when we're not sure about what we're doing. However, because of the "numbness" and feeling like your throat is "closing up," this situation concerns me. I suggest you discuss it with your health-care provider. Although it's quite rare for someone to have an allergic reaction to semen, it's not impossible.

Nestpert Dr. Pam Spurr, author of Make Love All Night & Talk to Him in the Morning and Naughty Tricks and Sexy Tips: A Couple's Guide to Uninhibited Sexual Pleasure

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bluerevolution9
I was told by doctor after doctor that I just had some crazy yeast infection that for YEARS seemed to be untreatable. Finally I started to do my own research on the issue to get better answers. I have never had yeast infections before I had been with my now husband and when we used a condom there was no issue. When we didn't use a condom I was burning and itching almost immediately and broke out in hives. Finally I found a doctor who was willing to look into the possibility of a sperm allergy. I had already been to one doctor who told me it was so rare there was no way I could have it. My new doctor was opened minded and sent me to an allergist. Turns out all along I was allergic, and never had a yeast infection, it was the allergic reaction. While a semen allergy is quite rare, it is almost never diagnosed because it can present as the same symptoms as an STD or similar to a yeast infection. If you suspect you are allergic then go to an allergist and don't give up when they tell you its not possible. It is, and there are treatment options for those who are trying to conceive so that you don't have to us IVF. There is desensitization therapy and allergy shots.

sweetblueyes316@msn.com
Have you considered that maybe it's a psychological reaction? Our minds are very powerful and many times after having either a very traumatic experience or a prolonged exposure to negative experiences our mind tries to protect the body by manifesting certain symptoms. I had a very unhealthy sexual relationship with a boyfriend that lasted 3 yrs (3 yrs too long) and after him I have had a lot of pain associated with intercourse. I have been tested for every possible infection and always came back fine. I finally determined that it must be a somatic disorder (what I described above) after the birth of my son, when sex became even more excruciating. I found a really good therapist that I could really connect with and she helped me. A lot of women have negative sexual experiences and don't even realize it until they are out of it or in a healthy relationship. Just a thought, hope it helps someone

mston31
I am allergic to semen. When I was in high school, I was informed by my health care provider that "There is no way I could be allergic to sperm" because it's so rare. She did tests for every STD under the sun and finally sent me away with a clean bill of health. Now that I have a little more experience, I know that yes, I have a senstitivity to semen, especially if we try to have sex a second time (within a few minutes). Yes, it is rare but not as rare as you may think. If you've been cleared of having a yeast infection or STI, don't beleive when people tell you that semen allergies/sensitivities are too rare for you to have one.

angie8583@yahoo.com
I think I might also be alergic to my fiance's sperm. Because I am on birth control, we don't normally use a condom. Afterwords I always have a really bad burning sensation inside and outside my vigina. (This only seems to happen when we don't use a condom) What do you think- could it be something else besides an alergic reaction?

beadandelion
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