My DH and I have been together for over 8 years and for 5.5 of those years I was never able to make him climax with oral sex. My jaw would hurt, my mouth would go dry, etc. You need to find the position that works best for you; you need to be comfortable. I started to enjoy it when I heard him groan and pant, it meant that I was actually getting the job done (no pun intended). Also, don't over-think what you're doing. It will distract you from your goal.

My whole thing with oral sex doesn't have anything to do with my husband, or being comfortable with him. It does have everything to do with a past boyfriend a long time ago, and being forced into something I didn't want to do. Now, I can't even go down on my husband because of this. Him and I have talked about this, and he understands the situation, but it still makes me feel like a horrible person, but the whole previous experience was an equally as horrible and terrible an event. Any tips or advice here?

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I was the same way! My jaw got sore and I was rather nervous about the whole swallowing thing. He was totally understanding, and at one point I decided to just go ahead and try swallowing. It was not unpleasant as I had expected and I could swallow easily (no gagging, or letting it sit in my mouth, etc.). I enjoy giving him oral sex because both of us like it, plus he is really good at reciprocating. Guys like if you try, or at least are willing, and I think the most important thing is being willing to try oral sex etc., because if you aren't into it, he will totally know

I love going down on my husband. just remember to take it out of you mouth so that the saliva can circulate and prevent your mouth from being dry. Donot focus on it just imagine you suc a lolipop or licking an i cecram

I only swallow on the rarest of occasions... most of the time we just put "going south of the border" into our foreplay. I don't care to do it... but I do it b/c he loves it. I promise you... even if you do it just for a moment, he'll love you. Work yourself into it, and you'll be fine. And to moonb - I'm sorry that you have such a horrible experience with this. I know I've had a few in my day. Just remember... no matter what, your husband is NOT this ex... work thru it together, that's what he's here for. My hubby and I have a LOT of issues regarding exes and we're slowly working thru each one of them, and I LOVE it! You have a great husband for understanding... but I'm sure you'd like to give him all of you... just trust him. Trust that he won't be forceful, that he won't hurt you... you'll have a MUCH better bond with your husband when you do!

True story: when we were dating and I couldn't get used to oral, I put peanut butter on his penis and it totally worked (killed the unusual taste). But now I'm more used to it I don't need to use my "food aide" anymore. :-P I have a strong gag reflex too - I can let him come in my mouth but then I go spit in the bathroom sink. I'm trying to work on swallowing a tiny bit to gradually get used to that too.

Ok, i feel the Dr. but that answer was to tecnical. 99.9% of man, love, enjoy, want oral sex 100% of the time; that's a fact. Yeah! they'll take it from their wifes if is not good, but they will always be expecting you to get better. So, my advise to you ladies is; do your best, try different kinds of strockes, move around untill you find a comfortable position for you. Of course guys will much rather have you swallow, but practice a trick of not to swallow but don't pull back either, just let it flow all out, it might be messy but it could also be worth it...anything for the king right! ;)

The thought of giving (and receiving) oral never really appealed to me, but it was something that my husband wanted to try. He and I were both virgins when we met, so I felt very insecure about not doing it right, but we talked through our worries and now it's a frequent part of our foreplay. When we first started out, I would just lick instead of having him completely inside my mouth. It helped me get used to it, and he is very loving and undemanding, which makes me eager to please.

Or you could just, I don't know, not do it. Here's another "news flash" for you: you don't have to enjoy something just because it's popular, and you should NEVER be pressured into doing something you don't like doing, especially when sex is involved.