I've realized that my hubby needs some motivation from me to get active. We love sitting around, drinking wine, and eating cheese, but we are both packing on the pounds! So I think with this, cleaning out the cupboards is the first easy step. BUT The crucial & hardest step will be for me to get active so he gets active.

It's usually a woman with this problem. However, I agree with the Dr., Give him a positive view of how you feel. If he tears himself down, get in the habit of saying something like "but it's good for me :) " At some point, I think it's a good idea to gently suggest working out together. If nothing else, for his health sake.

I walk at least three miles per day and if you live near a large mall you can walk there during inclement weather. I met a lady while exercising there and we talked as we walked. She was a few younger than me and was free a lot during the week. She began to confide in me and eventually told me she seldom came because he husband was very fast in coming and didn't give her time so she was frustrated. She wanted to have an affair but not in her home. At time I had a friend with an apartment in town and agreed I could use it. She was a beauity, slender, in great physical condition. Well kept hair and knew how to use makeup to enhance her natural beauity. At first the situation was a little awkward but soon we gave way to nature. She was not to enthusiastic at first with oral sex but quickly participated fully. She liked to get on top and because of my size and staying power, she would come several times each time we were together. She liked for me to use four letter words with her and loosen up so se could use them. Our relationship lasted more than five years.