Q.
Does size really matter when it comes to having more or less pleasure in bed?
A.
Girlfriends will say all sorts of things about size and the like, but at the end of the day, what's most important is that you and your husband share your own style of sexual enjoyment. Some women are "size queens," but don't buy the hype! Men on the small side are often kings when it comes to foreplay because they try to make up for what they think they're lacking. You can also choose positions where you can create the most friction: Try girl-on-top with your legs between his, and grind your clitoris against his pubic bone. Or get him behind you in doggy style -- in this position, even a less-endowed guy can reach your G-spot if you tilt your hips up toward him.
Nestpert Dr. Pam Spurr, author of Make Love All Night & Talk to Him in the Morning and Naughty Tricks and Sexy Tips: A Couple's Guide to Uninhibited Sexual Pleasure
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krbtgny
My husband and I just celebrated our first anniversary, and we were also virgins when we married. My mother's best advise to me was to keep a little bottle of KY jelly. Especially at first, it really helped me since I had trouble relaxing enough on my own to fit my large husband. It was frustrating for me at times, because I wanted to be an instant expert and always find it satisfying. Btw, painful sex is not normal. I got a UTI during our honeymoon from spermicide, and it took me way too long to figure out I needed to see a doctor because I thought it would just hurt sometimes. Like the other women said, it doesn't always get better with practice. You may need to see a doctor who can find the source of the pain.
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marieknobbe
Yes, whisafaye, the sex gets better. It took me about two months before it started getting better (partly because we found out I'm allergic to latex/spermicide the hard way (*ouch). Give it a little time and try not to stress about it, although I know that's hard because you just want it to work. It will take time for you two to find out what the other likes and doesn't like/feels good and bad. You'll find your groove, so to speak. Don't make yourself practice if you guys aren't in the mood...only "do it" when you're feeling passionate, otherwise you'll risk turning it into a torturous routine of unpleasurable time.
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egibson777
I was extremely small... so small I couldn't use tampons. However, the gynecologist suggested dilators. It was frustrating at first because it hurt a lot but the more I kept using the dilators- the bigger I became. I am now able to have sex! Just be patient, it took me about 3 months before I could have sex with my husband.
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whisafaye
My husband and I have only been married for 18 days...we were both virgins. It is still very painful for and sometimes I feel like I am not "doing" it right? We are exploring and experimenting...please tell me this sex things gets better. Thank goodness I have a patient man...what a wonderful thing!
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OnPointe
jkmcnamara, I have the same condition and use the dilators. They are VERY helpful
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jkmcnamara
Flutterby- Invest a some dilators. They will help stretch you out. http://www.vaginismus.com/products/dilator_s
et I have a medical condition that made me need these and I am now fully normal.
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tinanyc2009
First of all we all estimate which is a bad idea. Get the ruler out and see exactly what size he is. Also, if you don't want to do that measure with your hand and then use the ruler against your hand to estimate. Basically, if a guy is under 5" that is small this is really for girls that think then have a 10" its probably 8" just looks like 10"
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Flutterbyflyhi
My problem with my husband is just the opposite - *I'm* the one that's too small (so to speak). It can be quite painful. Any tips?