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Sex Q&A: Feeling Self-Conscious Because of Baby Weight?


The Nest Q&AI'm six months pregnant. As soon as my husband and I get started, I get self-conscious and I don't want him to touch me for fear of the weight I've gained. What can I do to get our sex life back on track?


You're a classic case of the "I think I'm fat, so he'll think I'm fat too" complex. The thing is, the majority of men see an overall picture of the woman they love. They don't notice a little excess weight here, a little bulge there. Instead they see the whole package without the details. Research proves it too. You can do a simple test at home to prove it to yourself. Ask your husband to find, for example, the mustard in the fridge, and you'll see he takes far longer than you would. This is because men see the whole fridge and not the detail of the little items in it. So hold that thought in mind and believe that he wants to touch and hold you. Talk yourself up every day. Then go hop in the sack -- because you're one hot package.

Nestpert Dr. Pam Spurr, author of Make Love All Night & Talk to Him in the Morning and Naughty Tricks and Sexy Tips: A Couple's Guide to Uninhibited Sexual Pleasure

-- The Nest Editors

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