Q.
My husband loves oral sex, but it takes him a very long time to orgasm. My jaw starts to get tired! Is there anything I can do to make it less painful for me?
A.
No sexual activity should end up in prolonged pain -- unless of course you're both consenting adults who love S&M! Yes, from time to time we all have to put up with a little bit of discomfort while our partner finishes off, but definitely not what you're describing. Most people have heard of "mouth cramp," so explain this phenomenon to him if he hasn't. Unless he's a selfish bully, he'll understand if you say that you'd like to use your hand for a while and give your mouth a rest. Oral sex can be all the more exciting by varying the stimulation.
Nestpert Dr. Pam Spurr, author of Make Love All Night & Talk to Him in the Morning and Naughty Tricks and Sexy Tips: A Couple's Guide to Uninhibited Sexual Pleasure
-- The Nest Editors
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shroombomber
I agree with all the other girls. Also you can switch off. Use your mouth then take a break and switch to your hand, but still kiss him or tease him with your tongue. Just keep alternating. Hand and mouth at the same time are also great. And can work quickly.
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thisishalloween
I agree with joymwinters! Oral to penetration to oral seems to be VERY exciting to a man. It shows you're adventurous and is quite stimulating. It also works well when he goes down on you. I little teasing goes a looong way ;-) Also, a testicle massage helps speed thing along while you're giving him oral pleasure. It adds another dimention to it & is slightly unexpected.
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ashgwilliamson
i found that doing it while he is standing up as opposed to laying down works really well. way less jaw cramps!!! and he seems to like it! but the hand and mouth thing works really really well...
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dhat224
I would advise that you use your mouth and your hand at the same time. This really helps avoid prolonged oral sex. I would also tell you that just using your tongue to caress his penis would help him reach his climax.
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joymwinters
men also get jaw cramps when they perform oral sex on women. the sacrifices we all make... try to change your position, or take a brake and have sex for a bit, then go back to oral sex before he reaches climax. This will also turn him on more, making it easier to reach climax, therefore giving your jaw a little break!