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Sex Q&A: Jealous of a Bachelor Party?

Q.

The Nest Q&AMy husband’s best friend is getting married and one of the groomsmen has hired strippers for a bachelor party. I've heard nasty stories about them and the “perks” they offer. I trust my husband 100 percent, but I still worry. Am I being too jealous?

A.

No way! You're just naturally protecting your territory: your husband! The thought of strippers prancing around with nothing on -- with a bunch of men there who may have been drinking -- simply gets those jealousy antenna up and running on high alert.

There’s nothing wrong with having a lighthearted discussion with him. When you’re both relaxed, say something like, “I hear that one of the groomsmen is hiring a stripper. Don’t enjoy that too much!” Gauge his reaction, and you’ll probably find that he laughs it off and reassures you. And that’s the best you can hope for because it would be wrong to ban him from going. On the other hand, if he has behaved badly with strippers in the past, then you have every right to ask him not to go. But when you start putting such restrictions on him for no good reason, it’s likely to backfire.

Nestpert Dr. Pam Spurr, author of Make Love All Night & Talk to Him in the Morning and Naughty Tricks and Sexy Tips: A Couple's Guide to Uninhibited Sexual Pleasure

-- The Nest Editors

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