Anyone can find themselves tempted and cheat. It's best that we work to make sure our spouse is as fulfilled as possible and to communicate about what we need from them as well. If both are working to meet the needs of the other, cheating is much less likely to happen. See http://www.MarriageHelper.com

Don't you think "extramarital sex" is a bit different than "cheating"? I think most people view cheating as a betrayal of the trust you share with each other. Mainly b/c in a vast majority of these situations one of the partners is unaware or disapproves of the contact the other is having outside the relationship. "extramarital sex" on the other hand implies that there is some mutual understanding as to the fact that there is something going on outside of the relationship. If there is an open honest dialog between partners about what you both need, expect, and do on the side then maybe you can "enjoy your salad" and have a more spiced up "steak" when you get home. Whatever works for BOTH of you. Regardless of the purpose it may serve for you, if your partner is uncomfortable with or unaware of your exploits with others it is cheating plain and simple and quite hurtful to say the least. So yes, it is negative. I've never heard of shattered trust, lost faith, and broken hearts being positives, and like it or not if you are on the receiving end of a "cheating" spouse's behavior those are the after effects.

I must admit, I am very disappointed in this answer. That is completely false information! From a 100% biological and chemical stance: _*YES*_, men ARE hardwired to "stray" after about a year or so. The good news is that yes, there ARE ways to counter the chemical process and continue to build a strong and loving bond with your partner long after the 1 year mark (look up Oxytocin, Vasopressin, and NGF for starters). Also, try and play off of the mans "role" instinct by letting him take over, just suddenly stop making him the center of your world, find something that you are passionate about FOR YOU (outside of him) and turn love to yourself, being ready to ACCEPT HIS love. That means suggesting, giving/nurturing, chasing, directing, questioning, and overall trying to control; turning to a 100% "I accept you as my capable man" standpoint and being ready to tell him how good he makes you feel when he suddenly turns around - do not go back to chasing after that (yes I know that it sounds anti-feministic and is completely against our nature as a woman but there IS chemical and instinctual basis behind it). Please do your research on topics more before you answer questions that may affect peoples relationships in a very negative way. Understanding the biological processes make for a more wonderful, enriching, and lasting relationship.

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