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Sex Q&A: Now That My Sex Drive Is Back to Normal, He's Not Interested!

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The Nest Q&A

I just stopped taking the pill after being on it for 10 years, but now that my sex drive’s back to normal, it seems like my guy isn’t interested. What’s going on?

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We’re used to thinking of guys as light switches that can be turned on and off, but male sexuality is actually a lot more complicated. There could be a number of reasons for his lack of desire: age, lifestyle, boredom, depression -- or a combination of these things. It’s also possible that your libidos were more evenly matched when you were on the pill, or maybe he became acclimated to having less sex. The point is, it doesn’t mean he’s not attracted to you anymore (if that’s what you were thinking).