My husband says that sex seems different after the birth of our first child. Besides bladder control issues, however, I don’t notice a change. What could it be? He’s being vague.
You’re experiencing what many men and women do after a baby arrives
. Suddenly you
r husband sees you as the nurturer and caretaker of his precious child
, and many men find it hard to see their wive
s in any other role
Sometimes a bit of jealousy creeps
in too, and the man feels
that he must play second fiddle to the baby
Make sure your conversation doesn't completely revolve around your child
. Each day you can briefly catch him up on what
’s happened with the baby
, but then open up the conversation
to subjects relevant to both of you
Don’t forget that you two are still a couple
emphasizing that to him
, you give him th
ssage that although parenthood changes a lot of things
, it’s still
about you two. Wear clothes that make
you feel confident and sexy so he
sees you in another role besides that of a mother.
Make a few romantic gestures -- text or email him a sexy message or put a flirty note in his things before he goes to work. You might feel that you’re doing all the work, but just a few small gestures will wake him up to the fact that you’re a multifaceted woman: mother, friend, partner, career woman, and a hot lover!
Also, I recommend talking to your health care provider about your bladder control issues, and be sure to do pelvic floor exercises twice a day.
Nestpert: Dr. Pam Spurr, author of Make Love All Night & Talk to Him in the Morning and Naughty Tricks and Sexy Tips: A Couple's Guide to Uninhibited Sexual Pleasure
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