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Sex Q&A: How can I climax faster?


It takes me about 30 minutes to climax during sex. Is there anything I can do to help speed up the process?


The Nest Q&AThis is most definitely not an unusually long time! For the average woman, it takes around 25-30 minutes of foreplay, stimulation, and/or penetration to reach climax. Some women find that the time it takes to get sexually aroused and climax is less when a couple of key factors are involved. First, there's nothing that will make a woman feel sexier than feeling wanted, loved, and desirable. Discuss with your husband how to incorporate little romantic gestures during foreplay that stoke your libido.

Second, women tend to climax more quickly when they feel completely free and confident about telling their partners exactly what sort stimulation they need. For example, maybe he gives you some pleasure during foreplay but tends to lose the rhythm, speed, or friction you like. This means the buildup to your climax is interrupted. So open the dialogue. If you can communicate about these important issues, then you might see things speed up. But if they don't, chill out. It's a marathon, not a sprint!
Nestpert Dr. Pam Spurr, author of Make Love All Night & Talk to Him in the Morning and Naughty Tricks and Sexy Tips: A Couple's Guide to Uninhibited Sexual Pleasure

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