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Sex Q&A: What Do You Do if Your Husband Has Small Penis Complex?

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The Nest Q&AMy husband has a small-penis complex even though we have a great sex life. What can I do?

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Traditionally, men are competitive -- at sports, at work, in the gym, and over women -- and this extends to penis size, where they want to measure up. Since he's worried about his size, you need to encourage him to become the "king of foreplay" and pleasure you with loads of caressing that'll get you aroused. But it's key not to pander to his insecurity by overtalking it. That's when you're likely to say something accidentally hurtful. Also, give him the facts: It's the first three inches of your vagina that have the most nerve endings, so all he needs is three inches when erect to stimulate them!

As for penetration, choose positions that will create more friction, like the "C.A.T." (or the coital alignment technique, where you lie on top with your legs between his thighs -- this tightens your thighs around his penis). Or do it doggy style with him behind, but push your bottom up high to tighten your vaginal muscles. Or, he should sit on the edge of the bed with you on top facing him for deep penetration.

Nestpert Dr. Pam Spurr, author of Make Love All Night & Talk to Him in the Morning and Naughty Tricks and Sexy Tips: A Couple's Guide to Uninhibited Sexual Pleasure

-- The Nest Editors

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