Q.
We’re in good shape financially, but I still worry a lot. What’s up?
A.
Sounds like your anxiety isn’t actually about that number in the bank. Money can be a powerful psychological force because it’s wrapped up in our sense of identity, security, and self-worth. Plus, since finances aren’t something you’re supposed to talk about with anyone but your spouse, suppressing that little financial freakout you’re having can leave you feeling seriously stressed. So figure out what it is you’re really worried about -- maybe it goes back to your family’s money values, issues you have with social status, your job, or just a general neurosis. Try talking it through with your spouse, a close friend who’s also in good financial shape (complain to a struggling pal and she’ll probably just resent you), or your parents.
Nestpert: Jean Chatzky, a money coach, the financial editor for the Today show, and the author of five books
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