1. Do you like to plan your weekends?
A. Yes. I stay in touch with friends during the week and usually have Friday and Saturday mapped out by Wednesday.
B. Not so much. I can’t be bothered to start setting things up days in advance. Just tell me where to go, and I’ll be there.
If you both answered A: You both like to set things up, so take turns making weekend plans (alternate weeks) so there’s no miscommunication about what you’re doing come Friday night.
If you both answered B: It’s cool that you’re both so laid-back, but plan at least one fun weekend a month so the couch doesn’t become your hot spot. (Yes, even if it means, gasp, making a dinner reservation.)
If you answered differently: If you’re the one always making up your shared social calendar, take a backseat once in a while. Trust us, your partner is going to get tired of being bossed around at some point.
2. What’s your idea of the perfect Saturday night out?
A. Hitting the clubs -- or at least a bar with a dance floor. Sitting around is not my thing.
B. Dinner with friends, then maybe a movie. I steer clear of sequins and velvet ropes.
If you both answered A: You both love the night life, so party on. Just set aside some alone time every once in a while to reconnect. Pretty sure you won’t get into a good convo grinding on the dance floor.
If you both answered B: Avoid a dinner-and-a-movie rut by looking out for local concerts, fairs and sporting events. You don’t have to always hit up bars, but there’s more to life than Chili’s and IMAX.
If you answered differently: Take a dance class together or find a bar that satisfies your different tastes (think pool tables and a dance floor). And remember, it’s okay to have a night apart now and then.
3. Your best friends just called inviting you on their weekend mountain getaway -- in two days. Do you go with?
A. Maybe if there was more time to plan, but arranging a trip on such short notice stresses me out. Plus, sitting in traffic on a Friday sounds so not worth it.
B. Count me in! Spontaneous trips like this always end up being the most fun. Plus, I love not having to spend weeks hashing out the details.
If you both answered A: So a trip on a whim isn’t your thing. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t go on a weekend getaway. Brainstorm drivable locales – and pencil it in.
If you both answered B: Have fun! But before you hit the road, don’t forget to take care of business. Find someone to watch the dog, turn the lights out, etc.
If you answered differently: If you’re the more spontaneous one, take care of planning and “before we go” duties that stress out the other person (so he/she will be more apt to to go).
4. You’re invited to a “just promoted” party for a former coworker you haven’t actually talked to in months. Do you go?
A. Sure, we’re still Facebook friends, and I haven’t seen any of the people who will be there in forever. It’ll be fun to catch up.
B. Ugh, maybe -- but only with a backup plan. I don’t even know those people anymore.
If you both answered A: You guys must send out plenty of holiday cards! Since you’re both such social butterflies, put it to good use. Join a volunteer group to expand your social circle…for a cause.
If you both answered B: It’s fine having just a circle of friends. But be open to meeting new people too. When you’re at parties of the people you do know, mingle with guests you don’t know so well.
If you answered differently: Hey, Mr./Ms. Congeniality: if you must go to every sorta-kinda friend’s bash, at least make a trade-off with your partner to do something he/she enjoys the next day.
5. You just got off work early! Where to?
A. Home sweet home. I’ll have extra time to prepare dinner, then just veg out in front of the TV and catch up on all the episodes of Parks and Recreation on my DVR.
B. The park for an impromptu soccer game with my also-off-the-clock coworkers, or maybe happy hour (or both).
If you both answered A: There’s nothing wrong with a cozy night in, but it won’t hurt you to sometimes use that unexpected extra time to surprise your spouse (hello, chocolate body paint).
If you both answered B: A full schedule is great. Know what’s also great? Being considerate. Every once in a while, skip happy hour and walk the dog if the other person is meeting up with friends after work.
If you answered differently: If you’re the people person, put down the BlackBerry once you’re home so you’re not tempted to see what everyone you know is up to and can focus on the now.
6. Are you happy with how much you and your boyfriend/girlfriend go out together?
A. Absolutely. We make a point to go on a few dates a month and hang out with friends almost every weekend.
B. Not so much. It’s not that we’re hermits -- we definitely go out -- but it feels like we’re on autopilot, always doing the same thing.
If you both answered A: Lucky you two found each other then, huh? Just spice it up so things don’t get stale. Instead of hitting up the movies for the sixth weekend in a row, check out a new art exhibit.
If you both answered B: Do something about it. If you’re both itching to get out more, make a list of things you want to do together, and mark one off each weekend. You’ll always have something to do.
If you answered differently: Even if you’re happy with the way things are, your partner isn’t – so it’s time to step it up. Schedule a weekly date night and challenge yourselves to do something new each time.
7. Would you be mad if your spouse didn’t invite you to a concert?
A. Um, yes. I want to feel included, even if I don’t know who Drake is.
B. If it’s not a band or singer I’m totally into, I’d rather do my own thing
If you both answered A: Okay, clearly you both have issues about feeling included. Solution: Always extend an invite, even if you don’t think the other person would be interested in going.
If you both answered B: It’s great that you’re not worried about being involved in every aspect of each other’s lives. Just don’t make a habit of leaving the other person out or you’ll barely see each other.
If you answered differently: If you don’t get an invite and you actually want to go, invite yourself! It’s not like your partner doesn’t want you there. He or she probably just didn’t think you’d be into it.
8. You just finished renovating your patio -- fire pit included. Who do you invite over?
A. Just a few of our closest friends for s’mores, spiked cider and maybe a little bocce.
B. Everyone -- friends, siblings, neighbors -- you name it. The more the merrier.
If you both answered A: It’s fine to keep things small, but invite a fresh group of people next time so you’re not always hanging out with the same old crowd.
If you both answered B: There’s nothing wrong with wanting to include everyone, but don’t take on more than you (or your budget) can realistically handle.
If you answered differently: Compromise by setting aside the blowout parties for big events like New Year’s and the Super Bowl, and keep it to smaller groups otherwise.
-- Jaimie Dalessio
Dec 03, 2009
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